The singular cause for toxic masculinity is toxic women.
It was not my macho hyper masculine friends that abandoned me when I grew sick and needed help. When I was vulnerable, when I was broken.
It was my wife, my sister and my mother that abandoned me, mocked me, insulted me, threw me away because that is how they treat broken useless tools.
It was the women in my life that told me they no longer had use for me.
It was the women that literally left me to be seriously ill, homeless, that mocked me and told me it was my responsibility, figure it out. The same women I had given everything I had earned to. They taught me my true value.
It was my mother, sister, my wives that told me my needs, my desires, my feelings were nothing. That I have no right to need, dream, desire anything. It was women that demanded I have no emotion, that showed no empathy, not the men in my life. It has been women that told me I was weak, worthless for having any emotions or needs.
Funny,
That is exactly how government treats the vets.
Seems our government reflects the women.
It was my hyper masculine friends that rallied, that helped, that had compassion care and love,
Not the women in my life.
To the women I was only a tool.
It will not be men attacking this statement,
it will be Women.
Every living man has experienced this.
This is our reality.
There is nothing to be depressed about.
Nothing to be angry about.
It is what it is.
Toxic chooses to be toxic.
Being angry, resentful, sad, or depressed is less than pointless.
If you don't like the toxic, don't choose toxic. Reject it. Walk away without looking back.
Now,
Let the gaslighting, insults, and rage from the toxic women begin.
Let their savagery expose the savage truth, in doing so they reveal themselves. That is a service, because then we know who to reject.
True.
I typed out a long post about how this also plays out when dating when you're broke vs dating when you're flush, but deleted it because it came across as bitter.
Guys, if you find a woman who is at your side when you're down on your luck or you're struggling with something in life, you need to put a ring on her. It's very easy for women in America to discard men, even when it's not in their long-term best interests to do so. Our culture very much encourages them to drop you like a bad habit the second you're not their emotional punching bag and financial sponsor.
I'm happily married with kids now, but only after a series of relationships with unreliable women who loved themselves more than they loved the idea of being true partners. It probably helps that my wife grew up poor in a family that had good values. She knows what real struggle is, and understands how important it is to support the people close to you.
I've been with my husband for 41 years. We grew up together. I see what you're describing all the damned time! It surprises and hurts me because I have 2 sons and they are agnostic toward women when they should be "chasing skirts" for the good of mankind. I wrote about this - Ode to Neanderthals - Why I Love Toxic Masculinity - about why I am happy to be a woman by traditional standards in love with a traditional man. It's a partnership of epic proportions, about which I wrote again in a love letter/birthday ode to him called What Can I Say - He had me at hello. I feel this human tragedy of toxicity. I'm sorry it's this way for so, so many.