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DancingInAshes's avatar

True.

I typed out a long post about how this also plays out when dating when you're broke vs dating when you're flush, but deleted it because it came across as bitter.

Guys, if you find a woman who is at your side when you're down on your luck or you're struggling with something in life, you need to put a ring on her. It's very easy for women in America to discard men, even when it's not in their long-term best interests to do so. Our culture very much encourages them to drop you like a bad habit the second you're not their emotional punching bag and financial sponsor.

I'm happily married with kids now, but only after a series of relationships with unreliable women who loved themselves more than they loved the idea of being true partners. It probably helps that my wife grew up poor in a family that had good values. She knows what real struggle is, and understands how important it is to support the people close to you.

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Cori Bren's avatar

I've been with my husband for 41 years. We grew up together. I see what you're describing all the damned time! It surprises and hurts me because I have 2 sons and they are agnostic toward women when they should be "chasing skirts" for the good of mankind. I wrote about this - Ode to Neanderthals - Why I Love Toxic Masculinity - about why I am happy to be a woman by traditional standards in love with a traditional man. It's a partnership of epic proportions, about which I wrote again in a love letter/birthday ode to him called What Can I Say - He had me at hello. I feel this human tragedy of toxicity. I'm sorry it's this way for so, so many.

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