The arrogance of public empathy:

A question.

This post is an honest question.

Why have I never met an actual empath that was a self professing empath?

Either male or female?

To clarify let me explain my understanding of what an empath is.

An empath is a person highly sensitive regarding the emotional state of other people.

A simple direct definition.

I have met many self professing “empaths” in my life.

I have yet to meet a self professing empath that was empathic. I say this because, rather than being sensitive enough to pick up on my actual emotional state, they have instead informed me of what they insist are my emotions. In each and every case they were completely wrong.

One insisted I was frightened, when I was in fact enraged. Not angry because I was scared, enraged because someone I love had been wronged.

They argued at me, without listening to me, while knowing absolutely nothing about the situation. Then lectured me in a deeply annoying manner about my emotional fragility and fear driving me.

“Uh no dip shit, I asked you nicely to back off, leave me alone, you are making things worse.” This resulted in them accusing me of being arrogantly narcissistic for not accepting their demands.

Excuse me?

Isn't an empath supposed to pick up on what is rather than decide for themselves?

Projection is not empathy.

Telling someone what you determine their emotional state is, then getting it completely wrong, is not empathy. It is arrogance, stupidity and gaslighting.

You do not get to dictate either what I am feeling or project your desire, onto me.

That is a form of narcissistic projection, not empathy.

That said,

I have met many empathetic people.

Empathetic people don't tell me what I am feeling, they instead ask,

“Are you ok? Can I help?”

Empathetic people focus on the other, not themselves and their feelings.

My current sense of the world is this;

When they proclaim empathy, there is none.

When they declare their honor, there is none.

When they declare their courage, there is none.

When they proclaim their virtue, there is none.

When they declare empathy, there is none.

The more “Godly” a person proclaims to be, the further from GOD they are.

And none of this is to proclaim my virtue!

I admit the fact of the broken nature of my soul, the blackness in my heart. I am a deeply flawed human desperately trying to keep my head up out of the deep seas of my evil.

Why does it appear that the world heaps praise on the vain, while treating the courageous with disdain?

I am asking this question to the secular world.

This is because so far the ONLY answer I have found is in the Book of John.

To paraphrase, YESHUA, speaking to His people.

“ Rejoice, for the world hates me, and the world will hate you because We are not of this world.

The world loves only it's own.”

What is the secular answer to my question?