Passive Aggressive is Aggression
Passive Aggressive.
Funny how people forget the aggression part. Aggressive action negates the passive claim.
The phrase, passive aggressive, is a prime example of gaslighting.
There is never anything passive about aggression.
Aggressive action is the use of force or the threat of force to exert dominance.
Pretty much the same as the legal definition of terrorism.
“ The use of force, or threat of force, fear, to effect political purposes.”
Why attempt to deny the aggression?
Why the masquerade at all?
Is it cowardice?
A part of planned betrayal?
A set up for the proverbial knife in the back?
I really have no idea what is the underlying motivation.
I do know that “passive aggressive “ people do not know how to respond when someone refuses to play along.
Often the refusal forces their covert aggression into the open, which then becomes overt physical attack.
Once that occurs they always seem to be shocked by an aggressive act of self defense.
For myself,
I relegate passive aggressive behavior as being a weak attempt at bullying.
Contemptible. One that I prefer to simply ignore when it is directed towards me. If by chance, I am not allowed to simply ignore the childish behavior, and cannot just walk away. I am a firm believer in the bigger hammer theory.
Why use a framing hammer when thermonuclear weapons are handy?
Best to dust off, nuke them from orbit. It is the only way to be sure.
I have no problem with releasing my inner monster.
Only manners, courtesy, compassion, and honor keep my beast contained.
Go ahead, give me a legitimate reason to release the Kraken. I can easily slip the leash back on and go on with my day.
Do not poke the Dragon unless you want to be cooked and devoured.
This is the attitude I teach my children. Especially my Daughters.
Never be weak, never tolerate it either. Never prey on the weak, Never back down.
Like Davy Crockett said, “First, make sure you are right, then, go right ahead.”
As My Dad said,
“Courage or Cowardice , you are free to choose.”
The lie of passive aggression is the lie of betrayal and Cowardice.
It is, the gas lighting of a narcissist.
Passive-aggressive really should be written as passive/aggressive.
It refers to people going passive when faced with a stronger person and then trying to stab that person in the back. Or it can be a person who acts passively but uses psychology to aggress against the stronger person.
Straight to the core.
I never noticed that.
Usefull, thanks.
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But I do notice,
a knife in my back for
every passive aggresive
person that i can remember
leaving in my life.
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When my youngest came to me
and said that his older brother
had hit him,
I sensed a liftime of reffing
looming.
~
I was single dadding it as per,
so not really smarts,
more like terror-luck-necessity.
~
So I showed him the
fisrt attack form of the fist.
The one you see on TV.
( psa
Y'all might not know this,
but when you fight starangers,
they almost always have a script
running in thier heads that
they got from a movie.
So knowing the myologigal
context you fight in
is an advantage.
People see a fist,
they understand what is up.
Good for school and brothers.
)
Then I showed him the mechanics
of how to use your intention
to move a wave
from your back foot,
throught your body,
and out to your fist.
Without any other advice.
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Next the older.
"He hit me and it really hurt!" says he.
"Want to learn how to punch?" I say.
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Yes, there was a time of more crying.
But then they moved on to other games.
They became kinder humans.