This is merely a list of tactics I have learned from a lifetime of experience.
First, realize, this is not a friend, not a companion, not a person that loves you, cares for you or respects you. This is a Narcissist , You are only prey. An object. Period.
Once you wrap your mind around that, you need to wrap your mind around the fact that You are Not dealing with an intact human being.
If it is a child, that means, you are dealing with a still developing human. Most likely a young toddler in the terrible twos, still struggling with potty training and the concepts of “me” and “you”.
As an adult, it is your responsibility to act with compassion, dignity, self control and restraint.Your role is to Model correct behavior, from which the toddler may begin to learn by example.
With an adult, you are dealing with something that has chosen to prey on humans. Someone that is all too often taught to do so from earliest childhood.
Someone that as an adult is fully aware of society, societies rules, expectations. The knowledge of the existence of self as well as knowing that there are other selves, individuals alongside their self.
The adult knows that there are the concepts of right and wrong. Good and evil. The adult chooses, Good or Evil, courage or cowardice.
In adults, narcissistic behavior is a choice the narcissist makes. A choice to ignore the value of other individuals. A choice to lie about their competence. A choice to avoid and deny personal responsibility. A A choice to reject collective, objective reality in favor of their constructed delusion. A choice to devalue, dehumanize and manipulate others as tools to acquire their desires.
Now that that's out of the way,
How to break them.
Realize that all interactions with a narcissist are based on a false premise. Every act is to deceive you, gaslight you, manipulate you and devalue you.
Look the narcissist in the eye and politely, directly tell them, you know.
Not only do you know, you do not care. This is the worst thing you could do to a narcissist.
When they try and provoke you in response, know that they will before hand. Ignore it. When you cannot ignore it, laugh.
Do not bother arguing, providing evidence of their lies and delusions. They already Know that they are lying. The narcissist knows it very well.
Tell them, calmly, indifferently, You know And you don't care. This exposes their hidden self , their secret sense of self worth.
This removes their entire arsenal of tactics, techniques and weapons, Rendering them absolutely useless.
The next action is one of two. Depending upon whether the narcissist is a full coward or an out rite bully. Rarely, does the individual narcissist resort to physical violence.
Commonly, they seek to punish you by cutting you out of their lives. Abandoning and Isolating you from their abuse is a blessing.
When their acolytes/enablers , the flying monkeys identify, exposing themselves, give them the same response.
They will remove themselves from your life.
In those rare cases where a narcissist becomes physically violent. Defend yourself. Document it, press charges. Do not excuse, condone or endorse the behavior, not once not ever. There is no excuse.
A violent narcissist will always escalate into violence, thus there is nothing you can do to prevent their striking out. It is only a matter of time until the narcissist acts with violence. You do not cause their violence, the victim doesn't cause the abuse.
Narcissists have a need to be celebrated, to appear powerful, important. By not granting those things you hurt the narcissist.
It is NOT your responsibility to cuddle, respect, support or endorse a narcissist behavior.
Do openly mock them. Do openly laugh at them.
If they cannot get your goat , so to speak. They are powerless, weak, insignificant. If they cannot hurt you, dominate and manipulate you, it exposes their weaknesses , their lack of confidence and competence.
That is how to break a narcissist.
Refuse to play their game.
Expose their behavior.
Expose their incompetence.
Remind them, that you know, express compassion for their incompetence.
Most importantly,
Do Not Feed the Troll.
The majority of them live in Narcissistic, D.C.